All the Igbos that have abused me for being sagacious and understanding things and sharing them with them must at some point apologize to me.
I was fresh out of graduate school, worked only four years, after quitting my teaching job and working for a county mental health division (age 34) when the white man saw me as unusually talented in mental health matters and made me the executive director of his county mental health agency in Portland Oregon. I supervised psychiatrists who were older than my father. Folks used to ask where I got my brains and knowledge.
Because I was married to a white woman, her culture directed me to white folks; I stayed away from Nigerians. After years of staying away from Africans I came to their midst and read the abusive stuff they write. It did not take me long to realize that the slave selling culture they lived in, for over three hundred years, damaged their self-esteem and perception of each other. They put each other down
(Njakiri) for they had to devalue each other to be able to sell them into slavery.
If you valued your people you would not sell them to Arabs and Europeans; shame on us for what we did, telling the world that we are worthless savages.
Thus, you come to Nigerian Internet forums and hear adult Nigerians insulting each other. I believe that it will take several centuries before we heal the damage done to Africans by slavery. We are totally dehumanized and do not know it.
READ: OZODI OSUJI - MANY IGBOS ARE DEPRESSED AND MASK IT WITH PARANOID GRANDIOSITY!
It is because they are stuck at what psychoanalysts call narcissistic stage of development. At that stage, around 12, children want to impress you with their importance; they are self-centered and do not yet care for other people’s welfare. The world centers around a child; he is the prince that every person should admire, he thinks; he does not mind using other people to get what he wants and feels that it is okay to do so (children tell their parents lies to get money from them, use them and discard them...narcissism)
You go to Igbos meeting and they literally behave like narcissistic children, adults stuck at children’s level of development; all they do is boasting and telling you how rich they are.
These are people doing security guard jobs in America and yet they fancy themselves mister big stuff. These people are depressed (from being nobody in extant society) and mask their depression with paranoid grandiosity.
They will pay me money for giving them that free information that ordinarily I would charge them several hundred dollars to give to them.
Bolaji, the study you referred us to is useful. Academic psychologists generally use surveys to prove what practitioners in the field already know to be the case.
Cheers for doing what you do best: give us data based information; I suppose that is why you are an engineer; engineers deal with facts not conjectures.
I give folks information from the front line and you buttress it with your statistics. Thank you.
Ozodiobi Osuji
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